I've decided to focus on one of the few things I can control in my life at the moment which is my hair. I have been natural for a year now and my hair reaches my shoulders when its stretched to because I have natural curly hair.
I just read Better Than Good Hair by Nikki Walton who is the founder of the website curlynikki.com. I have to say it was a good read and made me feel more comfortable with my hair. There was a section in there about how our hair can effect our moods and outlook on life. I never thought the state of my hair could cause me and issue until I stopped and looked at the situation.
I've talked to some of my natural friends too and my best friend who feels like a sister to me and she said she has been so depressed lately because of her hair. I was extremely shocked, I knew she always hated hair but now to be depressed over it is a lot. Some might ask why wont she shave it off and I know she wants to but she wont because her husband asked her not to. She is bringing her ass to my house tomorrow and we are going to two strand twist the hell out of her hair.
I've read so many different things people want us to do for natural hair saying that it works for them but I sit here and think my mom didn't do half of what some of these people are trying to do and my hair was braided past my shoulders. She braided my hair every Sunday night and I would go to school all week she would take it down Friday night and wash it on Saturday and then braided again on Sunday night. She did that every week until the summer I went to 7th grade which was back in 1997.
I was so ashamed of my natural hair back then because everyone would pick on me. My cousins would say hurtful things and other kids at school would hurt my feelings because my hair wasn't "permed". I felt so wrong then and I sit here thinking I wish I knew then what I knew now. I wasn't looking how thin and damaged their hair was, I was only thinking how straight and easy to comb it was. I started over from scratch a year ago and so far I'm very happy with my decision
